It’s been busy busy...
Sorry I haven’t written in a while but having a sick 6 years old and a spouse has been a challenge, cleaning everything consistently so that the baby and I don’t get sick it’s exhausting, going to the hospital a few times, going to my appointments, baby having fuzzy nights... yeah barely no sleep. I can say now with certainty that who ever has more than 2 kids, you ladies/guys are the real MVP because I know for sure I can not do it. I don’t know how my mom survived with 3 kids close in age, I tell her all the time I finally understand why we played so much outside, had summer camps, had activities in the church, etc. She needed her breaks, it was always her or our grandma taking care of us. So cheers 🥂 to her and everyone who does/done it.
Had my few sets of appointments throughout this, saw my therapist and she suggested to have an hour a day to do something for myself without my girls, something I enjoy. Honestly I haven’t been able to take an hour but I have been taking a little bit longer in the shower, just to have that “me time” she said. But I guess when my mom finally moved in with me that would be easier to do 🤞🏼. Also I’ve set (a few times now, since they keep canceling them) my last hearing test to finally know what is going to happen with my hearing, for y’all that don’t know, back in May I lost my hearing on my left side, no infection, no pain, no warning. Had done some testings and no brain tumor 🙌🏻 Nothing looks out of place or damaged 👌🏼 But completely lost it. (Scary for just a 28 years old) So the doctors are doing one last test to pretty much determine what type of hearing aid I’ll be using, unfortunately it will be for the rest of my life because I will never regain my hearing on that side, but hopefully with the aid I’ll be able to get some sort of normalcy, do and go to certain places again, not be lost on house parties ( cuz of the noise and everyone talking at the same time) be able to be in bigger areas with different noises and be able to distinguish each sound, be able to focus on one voice or sound and still be aware of my surroundings, and be able to sleep on my right side again 😂.
Hopefully everything turns out alright and my juggling skills will get better once I have my expert mother come and help me 😁 since she did this with 3 little ones! But I do know I’ve gotten better at juggling house and kids. Honestly though best wishes to everyone who does it with little to no help with more than 2 and close in age, because having the age gap has helped me juggle better. I’m here cheering for y’all as I hope y’all cheer for me! 🥂
You got this. Your therapist is right. You need to find some balance to make time for yourself. I would take long hot baths. The girls dad (your dad) wasn't the greatest at the baby stuff, but occasionally he would step up to help more. My current husband was a huge help with the twins. But I had to learn how to ask for help. I wasn't used to being able to rely on someone but I really needed it or I would have burned out. They are only babies for such a short amount of time. This is just a drop in a large bucket of life.
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